You have to kiss a lot of witches

  Or?    









       So much has been said to the belief that men are the evils of the world.  Countless books and daytime talk shows give justification of this truth.  I am talking about the dating world as well as marriage and commitment.  Men are selfless and brash with only one thought on their minds and that being able to bed any and every woman in their paths.  We can’t commit nor can we keep our center of gravity in our pants.  We are abusive and violent thinking that women are subservient toys to do with what we want.  We have no clue of the true meaning of Fatherhood, we enjoy making the child but don’t contribute to the care and upbringing of our children, after all the woman carries and gives birth demonstrating their willingness to endure the pain and suffering thereby giving them entitlement to the title of unsurpassed parent.  
        “My ideal match is a man who is self confident, relaxed, who will take the time to get to know me and become a good friend. At the same time, he has that chemistry or spark that lights the fires of romance! Honest, open to new things and ideas, clear on his values, and in touch with his feelings. Someone who accepts people for who they are and who enjoys our differences as well as our common interests.”
        “I'm looking for someone both fun and funny. Smart and curious. Responsible and silly. Someone who is not afraid to give and take. Someone who has a soft interior and a big heart. Someone who is open, honest and kind.”
       These two quotes are actually quotes from an on line personal dating service.  The common theme is a woman looking for a caring, compassionate, honest man who knows how to treat a woman in order to take long walks on the beach with.  Now, we have already set the precedence that men are worthless sex craved brutes, my question is why are there thousands upon thousands of women signing up to these kinds of services.  Based on the precedence we know the men or signing up to find new prey.
       In my two books, “Visa Versa” and “Love Dot Com,” still unpublished because men don’t read and women only read about women who are wronged by men, I explore how the condition, and myth of men being horrific beast in romance and commitment as truly a fallacy.  Decent men who actually desire sincere committed caring honest relationships are with little exception treated as weak, fallible wimpish boors.  Women have to fear men who desire to get between their legs while men have to fear women trying to get between their back pockets.
       Many men are treated as meal tickets.  There are professional daters who only want a free meal at a nice restaurant.  There are women out there who want someone to supply them with the necessities of daily living like gas groceries, and clothing.  There is a top news anchor on morning news who stated that a man with a poor credit report is not someone she would open the opportunity to date her.  The “Nice Guys” are the ones who end up supplying this kind of support and find themselves alone when used up.
       Men also have to fear being treated as if they don’t have feelings or emotions.  There are women who wish to control and dominate men into weak feeble assassinated carcasses whose only thought is that of the woman.  He must condensed to her every whim or suffer her verbal abusive raft, all the time he must continue giving while receiving nothing in return. He must say what she wants to hear in the way she wants to hear it.  He must act and do what she says.  Befriends who she says.   Oh yea, he may get sex once a year.  The “Nice Guy” is often thrown aside or betrayed for the “Bad Boy.”
       Contrary to popular belief, men just want the exactly the same things women want.  Sex is not the driving force in us.  Trust me; the way to my heart is not through my stomach.  We want loving and closeness and trust and understanding.  We are tired of waltzing through midfields of mistrust and condemnation.  We to are tired of being taken for granted as pots of gold or should I say tired of being taken.
       I get tired of the saying; “you have to kiss a lot of frogs to find Prince Charming.”  Remember we have to kiss a lot of witches or . . . to find Cinderella.  Half the problem is that women are hanging around dirty ponds reaching for frogs.